The comments on yesterday’s post really got me thinking about self image.
I truly am one of the lucky ones. My feelings about my appearance have been overwhelmingly positive for the majority of my life. I attribute this to three things:
1) My dad. He has always called me beautiful. I’ve heard that fathers are crucial in the formation of their daughters self-concept and I am so grateful that my dad has always shown me affection and treated me as though I was precious and worth his time.
2) I’ve worked for it. I love being active, and knowing that my legs carried me for that 5k run fills me with a sense of pride and ownership. My body can do incredible things and for that I am grateful.
3) My Heavenly Father. I believe that the creator of the universe calls me beautiful. There is nothing more powerful than believing the words of he who created the earth, and besides, who am I to argue with the big guy?
Ever since I was young, I’ve felt pretty and strong. I don’t know when or where I came up with this idea, but I always believed that if a guy didn’t check me out, it must be because he has a girlfriend! It’s silly but it feels good.
There are two things I want to avoid in this post,
1) I don’t want it to be mistaken for arrogance. I believe that I am beautiful but it is not relative to others. My self concept is not based on putting others down. Everyone is beautiful, and each for their own reasons.
2) I don’t want anyone to assume I’m just living in a dream world. The reality is that not everyone will find you beautiful, but it certainly is fun to believe that they do! We all live in a world based on our own perspective, so why not make yours a positive one?
Everyday I look in the mirror and I see what I love. If I can change something I don’t love (my thighs!) I work on it! But I also remember that those thighs are the home of the muscles that allow me to fly down a ski hill, and keep me from falling when I turn sharply. But I don’t focus on my thighs. I think about the things I love and allow myself to dwell on those features and nothing else.
Is there a body part that you need to change your perspective on? What part of your body/face should you spend more time thinking about?